20 lessons I learned in my 20’s

Well, the day I had been dreading has come and gone. Ya know, the RIP to your 20’s day. October 22nd is the day I blew out 30 candles. It still feels weird saying it. I remember being a little girl, when my parents where in their thirties, and I thought they were sooo old lol.. Now I’m here and I’m like the heck you say!!

I decided for the big #30, I’d write down 20 things that I learned in my 20’s.. A little Cliché? Maybe lol but I’m going for it!

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20 lessons I learned in my 20’s

1. You are never to old to follow your dreams and you don’t have to have it all figured out. That’s part of the ride. Don’t ever think you should already have your life set in stone.

2. No matter how good you are to some people, they will turn their backs on you. Don't take it personally. Just keep being good to people, but guard your heart a bit

3. You're the villain in someone's story. And that's ok. Everyone has their truth. Stick to yours and don't try to defend yourself. Your actions speak much louder than your words ever will. God knows. You know. And the people that are in your corner know. Good always wins

4. Not everyone has the same heart as you. (This one I still struggle with on a daily basis.) Just because you will do it for them, doesn't mean they will do it for you. And, it's unfair to both of you to expect that.

5. When you find the person you’re meant to be with, they won’t play games. Don’t waste time on people who make you question where you stand.

6. Be a woman with a prayer life and a plan. That’s how you really win at life. Trust God through it ALL and always be willing to learn.

7. People will show you who they really are. Believe them the first time.

8. When you put good out into the world, good comes back. Call it karma, or whatever you want... but, it's true. If you are kind, kindness will flood your doorsteps.

9. Let go of anger. It’s not worth it. Seeking revenge doesn’t make you feel better either. Let God handle it. Trust me. Leave it to the wrath of God. His vengeance is far greater than anything we could do.

10. People will love you for YOU - not your body size, your bank account, or your social status.

11. Learn to say no. You have to learn to say no without feeling guilty. Don’t lie. Don’t make up an explanation. And don’t over explain yourself. Do what’s best for you.

12. Failing is just another word for growing.

13. Friends come and go, unfortunately. It's life. Sometimes friendships you thought would last forever, end abruptly and you're left wondering why. Stop wondering. You're never going to feel satisfied with any answer they give you. Own your part in it, learn from it, and then close that door. That chapter has ended. Allow a new one to begin.

14. Spend as much time with your parents, grandparents, and loved ones as you can.

15. How other people judge us is none of our business. We won’t please everyone anyway.

16. Everyone has a story. Do not judge them based only on what you see. Be kind. Always.

17. People are in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It’s ok to outgrow people, and you can outgrow someone and still love them from afar.

18. Your past does not define you. Rewrite your story. Everyone loves a good plot twist.

19. Do not let the fear of judgement hold you back. No one doing more than you will never put you down - only someone doing less.

20. Strive to live a life with no regret. When you look back on your life, will you have wished you had done that thing? Then do it.
    

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The beginning of my twenties, I was going through a divorce, a single mother to 3 babies, and lost everything I had. 👈🏼 That’s for another day.

Now, I am married to a man that is one of the good ones. We have added two more babies to our family. And I have gained back what I had and more. Physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Most importantly my twenties have taught me to let God plan my life. To trust him with that plan, no matter what, because he has a far better plan than I ever had for myself.

Twenty wasn’t so bad. Now, let’s see what your thirties is all about!! 🥂

xoxo, Tonya

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